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The Qualities of a Perfect Child

Successful parenting requires planning and vision.

Have you ever wondered why only a tiny percentage of children achieve phenomenal success while the majority just gets by? Why are some adolescents immune to the seduction of smoking, drugs and alcohol? How are some teenagers able to withstand peer pressure? Why do some children behave like tiny angels? Where do some preschoolers get the drive to grind away for hours and hours every day at the piano? How do the whiz kids process and absorb information at lightning speed?

Are they endowed with superior genes? Were they born lucky?

An emphatic no!

We have fantastic news for you. Successful parents who produce these kids are "in the know." They know exactly what traits, qualities and values they want their children to have. In fact, they consciously plan for it in advance. Then they instill these traits, qualities and values as their children grow up. They leave nothing to chance. They know that, just as Shakespeare's almost-perfect protagonists meet with a tragic end because of a fatal flaw, a child who lacks a certain crucial quality can fail tragically in life.

That is why the majority of children who have a staggering IQ of 180 or better just lead unexceptional lives when they grow up as Lewis Terman, a world-renowned psychologist and IQ inventor, discovered to his dismay. They don't necessarily become world-class musicians or scientists. Their parents have missed out some crucial factors in raising their children.

If you would like your child to be fully prepared for the uncertain future, we suggest that you print out the list of important qualities we have given you below. You can use this benchmark of a perfect child to see how your child progresses as she grows up. All the elements are important. However, the list is by no means exhaustive as psychologists are still discovering new keys to success.

Please also bookmark our website as we are here to help. There is a scientific way of building your child's character and catapulting her to academic success. We have many parenting articles on showing you just how to do that.

The Qualities Your Child Needs

• healthy self-esteem
• self-confident but not arrogant
• polite
• respectful
• has empathy for others
• social skills
• financial skills
• resilient
• ability to delay gratification
• diligent
• independent
• mastered life-skills
• intelligent
• a talent in at least one area
• fluent and eloquent in English
• solid math skills
• problem-solving skills
• creative
• willing to take risks to succeed
• undaunted by failure: knows that success only comes after lots of attempts that end in failure
• open-minded but not gullible
• unprejudiced against people who are different
• powerful public-speaking skills
• knows how to use logic and reasoning in an argument
• health conscious
• happy and cheerful
• laughs often
• optimistic
• sense of humor
• determined to succeed
• makes sensible decisions in life
• not a perfectionist
• principled: has strong moral values
• immune to negative peer pressure
• knows she fully controls her destiny
• self-motivated
• emotionally equipped to overcome crises, challenges and obstacles in life
• plans ahead
• not impulsive
• patient
• proactive
• artistic
• developed right brain
• good musical knowledge
• computer literate
• wide general knowledge

It is a pretty long list. There are some overlapping traits. Some of them may seem petty or frivolous but they have been included for a purpose. Perhaps you will realize why they are so important after some pondering.

Raising kids suddenly seems like a daunting task, doesn't it? Life is full of risks, challenges and opportunities. A well equipped child will have all the inner resources at his disposal to tackle life head on and come out a winner.

We assure you, we will cover all these skills in our website. They are crucial for successful parenting. Not only will we explain why they are so important but we will also show you how to instill them in your dear angels.

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